Hypnotherapy and Coaching
Self love school
"I know my worth and I am not afraid to set Boundaries with others!"
Creating Healthy Boundaries
-Are you afraid to say NO?
-Do you put other peoples' needs before your own?
-Do you walk on eggshells, afraid to say something wrong?
-Do you find it difficult to stand up for yourself?
You are in the right place!
You may be asking yourself if this Course is for you! if you are still not sure, here are some indications that will tell you if you need to do start making changes in your relationships with others.
This course is for you if:
You struggle to set personal boundaries with others.
You feel like people take advantage of you often.
You fear disappointing others.
You avoid conflict & confrontation.
You can not be vulnerable, express emotions or needs.
You don't even know what your needs are.
You care about what people think of you.
You cant seem to be yourself with people.
Allowing others to control you, tell you what to do, where to go, what to wear.
You feel that your family don't trust your decision making.
You find it difficult to Trust yourself & make decisions.
Fear of criticism.
Staying in Toxic relationships.
If any of these sounds familiar, than you lack personal boundaries.
You need others to validate you, approve of you and like you.
You don't want to ask for help.
When we learn to love ourselves and know what we want, we can start realising that we are worthy of having needs and we can start expressing them. This will lead to success and happiness in every are of our lives.
Affirmations for today:
"I have the courage to stand up for myself without fear!"
"I Trust myself to make the right choices, and even if I do make a mistake, it's ok, I can always make another decision!"
"I am free and empowered!"
"I deserve to have my needs met!"
"I no longer hide who I really am!"
"I am authentic, I speak my truth and I am limitless!"
"I chose from my Heart and everything I touch prospers!"
These statements are not unrealistic and you are not asking for "too much", they are real possibilities that you can realise in your life and you're taking a big step towards that reality.
The reason for you struggle with setting boundaries is because of Subconscious Fears & Limiting beliefs that are probably coming from childhood experiences. We will look at what is holding you back in Chapter 2.
Once you find out what beliefs and fears are holding you back from setting boundaries with others, you can release them. Once they are released, you will create more space for Love, Joy, Worthiness and gratitude to flow through your body. Then, you will learn how to set boundaries with your intuition and intention, and how to communicate them with confidence.
We will also talk about any challenges that come up while you start setting boundary, and how to handle these situations with grace and compassion.
We will end by looking inside of ourselves and exploring our self-boundaries, which will free you from self-sabotage. You will create a new sense of wholeness and self-empowerment and inspire others to find their own power.
What are Boundaries?
What would you do if you find yourself in a situation where someone you know has violated a boundary? If for example a friend comes to your house without calling first, a member of your family goes through your personal belongings or someone keeps commenting on how you look, witch makes you feel uncomfortable.
Boundary violation is when someone does something that makes you feel uncomfortable and you need to know what is acceptable for you and what is not. So what do you do?
Do you ignore it?
Do you distance yourself from them?
Do you secretly resent them?
Do you tell them?
There are different types of boundaries that we need:
Boundaries you have set with yourself based on your own needs. Personal space. How much you do for others. and how much time you take for yourself.
How much time you spend with someone. How much they value your time,
are they late all the time?
How close you allow people into your personal space. Who can touch you! How! Where! and When!
What you are willing to do sexually with another. Who can touch you in a sexual way, when and where! Consent! Sharing details!
Things people can say to you. How people make you feel. Making inappropriate comments, invalidating your emotions, emotional dumping.
How much money you spend/lend to others & what peoples' expectations can be. Are they aligned with your values and needs? It can also be possessions you lend to others such as cars, clothes, shoes, bags, etc.
What you chose to believe and how you practice your connection to God.
What are your boundaries in each of these areas?
Please do the activity on page 3 of the PDF provided.
These things can be irritating and people are not perfect, so if it happens sometimes, it's ok, we can compromise. However if the behaviour becomes repetitive, it become s problem and you need to set boundaries.
Some things to remember when trying to set a boundary:
1. Have a conversation with the person letting them know how they made you feel
2. Tell them what you need from them
3. Be kind
4. Listen with Compassion
5. Don't be afraid to be vulnerable
6. Don't be afraid to be assertive